Day: November 16, 2020

Have the courage to defy convention

Traditional gender roles were on our mind during a recent family discussion. Too often we lock ourselves into preconceived notions of appropriate roles and attendant responsibilities without giving either one a great deal of thought. Those notions of what path is appropriate may have been shaped by our upbringing, religious beliefs, or career choices. Sometimes we see them as the price of acceptance into a culture or tribe. This particular discussion focused on how gender roles can affect the way we make decisions. Our adult son, who is gay, noted that many in the LGBTQ community navigate these conversations differently than heterosexual individuals. As Andrew explained it, “People in LGBTQ relationships don’t even have the roster to conform to the playbook of traditional gender roles, so by default we need to come into the space assessing everything on a more personal basis.” Of course, LGBTQ people grow up in the same world of gender roles as straight people, “but being unable or unwilling to abide by them presents one of the greatest threats to LGBTQ …