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Our Year in Photos – 2018

Posted on November 21, 2018 by DJB

The Browns along the California Coast

As we enter this season of Thanksgiving, I continue my tradition of posting family photographs from the past year on More to Come…. We have much for which to be thankful in 2018.

This was yet another year unlike any other in the recent history of our country. The level of vitriol coming from some of our so-called leaders has put many on edge and has driven others to do unspeakable horror.

In spite of the turmoil in the world and some significant changes in our lives, we were blessed again this year with good health and good friends. Each of us is doing well.

Shortly after Thanksgiving last year, Candice and David traveled to Providence to hear Andrew solo with the Brown University Chorus in Messiah. While there, we took advantage of the trip to visit some of our favorite haunts in this food-friendly gem of a city.

Candice at our favorite Providence bakery and cafe: Ellie’s

Of course, each December brings a special celebration of Andrew and Claire. The twins’ birthday is always a major highlight, but given that they reached the 25-year-old milestone in 2017, it was a special event for all of us. We also celebrated the holidays together in Washington, seeing good friends and visiting special places like the evocative Museum of African American Culture and History on the National Mall.

Celebrating 25 years of Claire and Andrew – one of the great achievements of 2017!

We all have our passions. David has his sports and writing; Candice her cooking and friends; Claire the outdoors and children; and Andrew his music and travel.

Sporting a New Jacket and High Hopes for the Nats

Claire with her roommates at Lake Tahoe

A typical pose for Andrew

Caps Win the Cup!

Summer brings baseball (and more baseball) along with the Bach Soloists Festival in San Francisco.

2018 All Star Game with Andrew

Andrew, on his stained glass window tour of the National Cathedral

Claire joins her roommates at an A’s game this summer – rooting for a team that actually MADE the playoffs!

Andrew and fellow musicians at the San Francisco Bach Festival

We loved our vacation time together as a family at Pacific Grove, California. It was a respite from the hustle of the year.

Candice and DJB at the Lone Cypress in Pebble Beach

Yoga with Andrew and Claire at Pacific Grove

Claire and Blair at the Bixby Creek Bridge along California’s Highway 1

Claire Whale Watching

Fall brought transitions in life for everyone. We gathered with long-time friends, saw Andrew off to graduate school in London, and said good-bye to David’s boss of the past 8 years.

A fly fishing beginner learns to cast in the Yellowstone River

Andrew with his tattoo, along with the inspiration

Andrew singing at Senator John McCain’s state funeral

A whirlwind weekend: the McCain Funeral, a special evensong, and then off to London

Staunton Friends – Bizzy, Mary, Margaret and Candice – at the National Gallery of Art

David and National Trust President Stephanie Meeks at the 2018 PastForward conference in San Francisco (credit: David Keith)

Candice and our friend Tom Mayes at the PastForward 2018 Conference in San Francisco

David speaks at the Final Luncheon of PastForward 2018 in San Francisco (credit: David Keith)

David, Candice, and Claire enjoying the Holiday decorations at Filoli in Woodside, CA

At the Museum of African American History and Culture in December 2017

Our family continues to be blessed, and for that we are incredibly thankful. We remain grateful for each of you and the friendships we share. Happy Thanksgiving to all.

More to come…

DJB

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Only Two Kinds of Music

Posted on September 3, 2018 by DJB

Today is bittersweet, as our Andrew prepares to leave tonight for London and his graduate studies at conservatory. Over the past month, we’ve been savoring both his presence and his music.

When we were in California in August, we had the chance to attend the final concert in San Francisco’s 2018 American Bach Soloists’ Summer Bach Festival, the stirring Mass in B Minor. Andrew joined three other musicians for the Benedictus. This tenor aria comes near the end of the mass, and Andrew’s beautiful singing was supported by just a flute, cello, and double bass.

Andrew and flutist Dov Houle following the B Minor Mass

Then just this past weekend, Andrew had a call to sing the state funeral for U.S. Senator John McCain at the Washington National Cathedral. He had turned in his badge and music at the cathedral, where he most recently was one of the tenors in the men’s choir. But his replacement had not arrived from out-of-town so Andrew had the chance to sing his third state funeral (Reagan and Ford, while a boy chorister, were the others) to go along with a variety of Inauguration and memorial services through the years.

The cathedral has been such a part of all our lives since Andrew began there as a novice chorister in the 3rd grade. Andrew has sung solos there as a treble (Chichester Psalms and national Christmas Eve broadcast, to name a couple) and as an adult tenor. He’s heard—and been moved by—the words of everyone from the Dalai Lama to the Rev. William Barber over the years. We’ve all been touched by the musicianship that Canon Michael McCarthy has brought to the cathedral during Andrew’s time on the close.

For the past year, Andrew has been thinking about how to take that formative experience with him…and he chose a tattoo. Now, I’m not a tattoo type of person, but the elegance of the stone tracery of the rose window which is now a permanent part of his left arm, along with the very moving rationale he posted on Facebook for his decision, made it all seem right.

Andrew with his tattoo, along with the inspiration

Of course, Andrew is not only immersed in classical and sacred classical music. He listens to just about anything and shares some of his favorites with me. We both subscribe to the Duke Ellington theory of the types of music: good and bad.

We’ll miss having Andrew at home. He’s been such a joy to have here as he has worked through the decision to go to conservatory for a masters of vocal performance and built up the experience and contacts to make that possible. We’re fond of saying that Andrew is “good company.” We know we’ll see him soon (home for the holidays in December, and then perhaps with a late winter/early spring trip to the U.K. for us). However, the house will be a little quieter (if neater) and the dinner conversations will be a tad less lively without him around. And yes, we’ll have to finally break down and buy that step stool to reach the upper shelves in the kitchen, as we’ll miss that 6’2″ height!

Take care, Andrew, and sing well.

More to come…

DJB

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Lenten Litany

Posted on February 19, 2018 by DJB

Central Tower of the Washington National Cathedral

At yesterday’s service on the First Sunday in Lent at the Washington National Cathedral, Andrew — a tenor in the men’s choir — was the soloist for the Lenten Litany. This particular version of the litany was arranged by Canon Michael McCarthy, the Director of Music at the National Cathedral.

It is a moving seven minutes of music, to help bring the faithful into an observance of the holy season of Lent. The solo begins around the 13 minute mark.

With blessings for whatever practice you bring to the season.

More to come…

DJB

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Memories

Posted on January 1, 2018 by DJB

Helen Roberts Brown – Mom

For the past two decades, New Year’s Day has had memories of loss mixed in with the anticipation of the coming year. Mother passed away on January 1, 1998, and while a day doesn’t go by when I don’t think of her, the memories are especially poignant on New Year’s Day.

Thankfully, mother’s life left many legacies in her family, her church, and her community. Mom’s love of family never changed and was unconditional. She loved each one of us as individuals who had unique gifts and ways to serve. The lives lived by her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren (who she never met) and in-laws are part of her legacy. Her commitment to her faith and her church was just as strong. She was a life-long reader (as was my father) and she shared that love through her decades of service at church libraries in Tennessee. She also believed in the power of women in the church, and became the first female deacon at First Baptist in Murfreesboro. Mom served her communities in so many ways, from PTA president to her years as the children’s librarian for the city. Mom’s commitment to reading and education was one reason the Helen Brown Scholarship Fund was established by her family at First Baptist Church. For two decades now it has helped young people attend college. Most of them never knew Mom, but they are blessed by her life and legacy.

As we look ahead to 2018, I’m reminded of a few of Mom’s many strengths which will help me face this new year with confidence in the future.

Treat everyone with respect. This seems old-fashioned after the year of taunts, lies, and slander we’ve endured. However, it still has meaning today, and Mom lived this value through good times and bad. She was the PTA president the year our school in Cookeville was desegregated. Very difficult times. Mom went through that year with her values leading the way, but with an understanding of the challenges she faced. I later heard her say that there were never any problems with the children in desegregating the schools, only with the parents. I am often reminded of that when I speak about others who are different from me.

Be the person you were meant to be. From their understanding of faith, Mother and Daddy gave us a blessing of unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, release to be the person God intends for us to be, and affirmation and support as we work out our understanding of who we are meant to be. They both said it out loud, and through their lives. Their unconditional acceptance also seems old-fashioned in a world where too many are frightened by those who are different, but to me it seems so necessary for our life as family and community.

Mom and Dad, with their “Helping Hands” aprons made by their grandchildren

Money can’t buy happiness. Mother and Daddy were never rich in money, but as Mom phrased it, they were rich in love. Mom would relate to a note from my Dad about money:

MONEY CAN BUY . . .

a bed, but not sleep

books, but not brains

food, but not appetite

finery, but not beauty

medicine, but not health

luxuries, but not culture

amusement, but not happiness

flattery, but not respect

a house, but not a home

companions, but not friends.

No woman of quality has ever preferred football to baseball. My mom never said this. The line actually comes from Thomas Boswell’s Why Is Baseball So Much Better Than Football? But Mom lived this. She would watch football and basketball, but she loved baseball. She told stories of going to old Sulphur Dell park with her father to watch the Nashville Vols. I’ve acquired her love of baseball and have passed it along to my daughter Claire (another woman of quality). Looking ahead to 2018, she would join me in my optimism for the Nats!

Memories live on. I once asked the singer-songwriter Claire Lynch if she ever played her tune These Flowers — about remembering a parent who has passed on — in concert. It was during a mid-set break, and I was hoping to hear this tune, which meant so much to me, live. She replied that she didn’t play it live because it was too emotional for her. I told her I understood, and added that I would probably start crying out in the audience. So when These Flowers came up on my playlist yesterday as I was driving home from dropping Claire (Brown) off at the airport, I — true to form — started crying.

We all gathered round, and stared in the ground,

While the heavens were weeping with rain.

We smiled. We cried. We said good-bye.

And the children made handsome bouquets,

From flowers that lay on your grave.

And on the long ride home, in their warm little hands.

The blossoms were withering fast.

So we wrapped them in paper and tucked them in books,

And prayed that the memory would last.

With these flowers.

Though time marches on and memories fade,

And flowers surrender their youth.

It’s funny how old pedals pressed on a page,

Brings everything back into view.

I still picture you there, in your favorite chair,

With grand-babies held on your knee.

And its hard to believe you’re really gone.

It’s as if we have all been asleep.

What we find when we wake from the dream…

Are these flowers. These flowers.

Twenty years later, the memories do fade. But then something…like New Year’s Day…comes around and everything comes back into view. Miss you mom. Love. David

More to come…

DJB

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Farewell 2017, Hello 2018

Posted on December 30, 2017 by DJB

An Age of Folly Indeed! The cover photo of Lewis Lapham’s newest book on how America Abandoned Its Democracy

I was so discouraged with our country’s direction at the end of 2016, that I missed what had become an annual More to Come… year-end update. Many commentators described 2017 as a “dumpster fire of a year.” Even Dave Barry had a hard time coming up with outrageous examples that exceeded our twisted reality. The title of this year’s review by Barry says it all: “2017: Did that really happen?”

My optimism for our country’s future hasn’t fully recovered in part because I find myself agreeing with Lewis Lapham when he writes:

“If the American system of government at present seems so patently at odds with its constitutional hopes and purposes, it is not because the practice of democracy no longer serves the interests of the presiding oligarchy (which it never did), but because the promise of democracy no longer inspires or exalts the citizenry lucky enough to have been born under its star. It isn’t so much that liberty stands at bay but, rather, that it has fallen into disuse, regarded as insufficient by both its enemies and its nominal friends. What is the use of free expression to people so frightened of the future that they prefer the comforts of the authoritative lie?”

Frightened by the future…that could be a theme of so much of 2017 in America.

It didn’t always seem this way. In my 2013 year-end post, I outlined seven rules for the next third of my life, with an optimism that I could live a long and fruitful life. For four years I’ve looked at them on my computer wallpaper as I’ve logged on in the morning. Colleagues have seen them and made comments. The family has been supportive. But in thinking recently about my difficulties in keeping up with my life goals in 2017, I realized that I had lost some faith in the future. My primary goal is to regain that faith in 2018.

Celebrating 25 years of Claire and Andrew – one of the great achievements of 2017!

At work and in our family life, 2017 was a year of progress and celebration, of which I am proud and which gives me hope for the future. But careful readers know that I can demonstrate some of the lighter symptoms of SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), which a quick trip to sunnier climates (think the Pomona College Family Weekend in February) usually fixes. 2017 felt like a year when SAD-like symptoms (or perhaps TAD-like symptoms, and you can fill in the “T”) came and went throughout the year.

Reading a recent article by David DeSento helped me focus on what may have been missing from my 2017: that sense of gratitude for what I have been given. A psychologist, DeSento argues that social emotions — not willpower — helps us achieve our life goals.

“What these findings show is that pride (not arrogance, but pride in the skills one has), gratitude and compassion, whether we consciously realize it or not, reduce the human mind’s tendency to discount the value of the future. In so doing, they push us not only to cooperate with other people but also to help our own future selves. Feeling pride or compassion has been shown to increase perseverance on difficult tasks by over 30 percent. Likewise, gratitude and compassion have been tied to better academic performance, a greater willingness to exercise and eat healthily, and lower levels of consumerism, impulsivity and tobacco and alcohol use.

If using willpower causes stress, using these emotions actually heals: They slow heart rate, lower blood pressure and reduce feelings of anxiety and depression. By making us value the future more, they ease the way to patience and perseverance.”

I had recently been thinking about gratefulness and thankfulness. Putting all this together, I realized that I needed to add an eighth life rule for 2018 and beyond. So…here’s a quick look at that new rule plus some thoughts on how I did in 2017 with the original seven.

1. Be Grateful. Be Thankful. Be Compassionate. Every Day. Several years ago I made it a habit to say thank you to one person each day. Even in 2017, I managed to maintain that habit. Moving forward with this new rule, I want to expand that habit to being intentional about gratefulness, thankfulness, and compassion.

2. Exercise six days a week for the rest of your life. I had a good pattern of daily exercise through 2016, resulting in weight stabilization. Unfortunately, that didn’t continue in 2017, and my weight returned. For 2018, I want to look with gratitude at the health I’ve had through six decades of life, and find ways to build on that outlook to maintain it. I’m also going to keep the cartoon in mind where the doctor asks his middle-aged male patient, “Which is more inconvenient for you? 1 hour a day of exercise or 24 hours a day of dead?”

3. Listen more than you talk. It is always a challenge when I find myself in a place of some authority (either at work or home) not to grab the bully pulpit. While David Isay, the founder of Story Corps, says listening is hard, he also notes that listening is an act of love…and act that one never regrets. Both thoughts are worth remembering.

4. Spend less than you make. 2017 was another year when I didn’t buy any new guitars! (Although I can say that I gave it some serious thought.) I’m continuing to adjust some of my expectations in order to live with much less regular income in the not-too-distant future. I’m also thinking more about what to give away and how to do that to support those who have less.

5. Quit eating crap! Eat less of everything else. Candice, Andrew, and Claire all support me in this effort, but I know I turned to comfort food more than I should have in 2017. Like the rule about spending, I want to think about how eating less is an act of gratitude that what I have is enough.

6. Play music. The world is a better place when I play music. My music is better when I play with others. That’s the goal for 2018.

7. Connect and commit. Over the years since I set these rules, we made real progress in gathering people together on a regular basis. That slipped some in 2017. In the list Candice and I are assembling of 50 things we want to do in 2018, we already have a number of connections identified.

8. Don’t be a Grumpy Old Man. Enjoy life! I tried very hard not to let my SAD or TAD symptoms show through to others…in part, because this is probably the life rule I remember every day. But there is still progress to be made…and in addition to Ursula Le Guin’s recent book of essays on growing old, I enjoyed reading yesterday’s New York Times article entitled, Want to Be Happy? Think Like an Old Person. I laughed. I smiled. I saw some traits I recognized. I saw some things to work on.

Okay 2018: bring it on!

More to come…

DJB

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Our Year in Photos – 2017

Posted on November 21, 2017 by DJB

The Browns at the St. Alban’s Parish Christmas Day Dinner 2016

As we enter this season of Thanksgiving, I continue my tradition of posting family photographs from the past year on More to Come… We have much for which to be thankful in 2017.

This has been another difficult year in our country, as we break into tribes and as the growing income inequality pushes us farther apart. We forget that the American experiment is built around ideas, not tribal groups, and that a sharing of common opportunities and challenges is important to being a citizen. That experiment survives only if we celebrate all our fellow citizens and embrace the full American story. We have not always succeeded, but we must keep trying in the year ahead.

Candice and I were thankful that Andrew and Claire were home for the Christmas break late in 2016. Some of the errands and visits were more mundane than others—such as shopping for new glasses—but this one made for a good opportunity to take a picture of our two favorite children!

Clarity is a pair of new glasses: Andrew and Claire, December 2016

In January, Candice and I were fortunate to spend the Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday weekend in New York City, where we saw the amazing musical Hamilton. It truly lived up to the hype. (Our selfie-taking abilities…on the other hand…leave much to be desired.) Andrew was also “on stage” in January as one of the three kings at St. John’s Lafayette Square’s traditional Epiphany celebration.

In line to see Hamilton in New York City

Andrew (left) as one of the Magi during St. John’s Epiphany celebration

We were back in New York State not too many weeks later. Thirty-five years ago in March, Candice and I began our life journey together. To celebrate, we had a relaxing and restorative long weekend at Mohonk Mountain House, one of our favorite places.

Celebrating our 35th Anniversary at a snowy Mohonk Mountain House in March 2017

While we were in the snowy northeast, Claire was enjoying California, her home for the past six years. She has always been our lover of the great outdoors, and during the first half of the year she went hiking and camping in the beautiful Joshua Tree National Park, visited the Grand Canyon with Southern California friends, hosted Andrew during her last couple of months in Los Angeles, and gathered together for a reunion with her Episcopal Urban Intern Program housemates.

Joshua Tree at sunset (photo by Claire)

Hiking the Grand Canyon

Claire’s reunion with EUIP Housemates

Baseball season began in April, and that can only mean one thing: Let’s Go Nats! David made it to Opening Day for the first time in his life, and Andrew went along to help kick off the new season. (Andrew ended up going to five games on both coasts, perhaps joining Dad and Claire as true-blue baseball fans.)

Old Glory at Opening Day

Celebration was in the air in May and June for all types of special family events: Mother’s Day, weddings, Andrew and Claire’s exploration of LA, and Father’s Day.

Celebrating Mother’s Day

The family gathers to celebrate life and love with Erin and Jonathan

Claire and Andrew explore LA

Drinking whiskey at Jack Rose on Father’s Day

Andrew and Claire look very stylish in celebrating a dear friend’s wedding in Sarasota

Claire was home for a month between July and August, as she transitioned from living in Southern California to attending graduate school at Berkeley. She took time to hang with Andrew, Mom, and Dad and attend a beach weekend with close friends from Pomona College.

Dad does his best to make baseball fans of the next generation

Pomona College friends reunion at the beach in Maryland

The entire family was able to come together in August for a week in Wellfleet, Massachusetts on Cape Cod. It was a nice time of relaxation, exploration, and—of course—eating well.

Finishing up a puzzle – a Brown vacation tradition

Andrew meeting author Alison Bechdel during a book tour event in Wellfleet

Fall has been a busy season, with another family wedding, Claire beginning her new adventure in graduate school, Andrew’s singing career stepping up to a new level, celebration of holidays, and traveling across the country.

David and Emily Ghattas celebrate with their cousins from around the world

Candice and DJB enjoy Chicago with David’s sister Debbie and her husband Mark

Claire – on the first day of kindergarten and the first day of graduate school. Time goes by much too fast.

David at Pink Martini Headquarters in Portland, OR

Claire – new glasses, new haircut, ready for a new home in the Bay Area

Pumpkin carving time with Andrew and Candice

Andrew sings the Mozart Requiem at the Mexican Cultural Institute for El Día de los Muertos

Dinner with Claire at Alice Waters’ Chez Panisse

Claire’s view from her back porch hammock in Oakland…life is good

Wine tasting in Sonoma

As you can see, it has been a busy and fulfilling year. During this Thanksgiving season, we give thanks for you, our wonderful friends.

Enjoying one of many wonderful meals on Cape Cod

Have a terrific Thanksgiving holiday with friends and families.

More to come…

DJB

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Welcoming Emily to the Family

Posted on September 4, 2017 by DJB

David and Emily Ghattas with my sister Carol (on the left) and nephew Nathan (on the right)

Candice and I spent this Labor Day weekend in Chicago at the wedding of our nephew David Brown Ghattas (catchy name, huh?) and Emily Ames. David—an engineer just like his father and grandfather—is the oldest son of my youngest sister Carol and her late husband Raouf. Emily is a wonderful young lady he met while they were both in Istanbul a few years ago. We had the chance to meet Emily at my father’s 90th birthday celebration in 2015, and have enjoyed getting to know her (and now her family) over the past couple of years.

As my nephew Joseph Brown said to me somewhere along the weekend, it is great to be getting together for weddings as opposed to funerals, and I couldn’t agree more.

Families are funny things. When you have a relatively big one like ours (five siblings and lots of nieces, nephews, and in-laws), there are bound to be some differences. The differences in ours are pretty substantial. I’ll just leave it at that. But love trumps all (pun intended), and it was great to see Carol as the radiant mother-of-the-groom, along with Emily and David looking so beautiful, handsome, and happy. Raouf’s family came from all over the U.S. (and Egypt), and it was good to see them after too many years. And David’s younger brother Nathan may win the award for best sense of humor in the whole crowd. His toast at the reception was one to remember.

David and Emily Ghattas celebrate with their cousins from around the world

It was also good to spend an extra day in the city. We saw other family in Chicago and spent quality time with the Crocker family (my other sister Debbie, her husband Mark, and their three girls along with Ashli’s daughter Kate). We had a wonderful time over meals in this culinary destination while also taking the fantastic Chicago Architectural Foundation river tour. This was my 3rd or 4th time, and it is a must-see when you come to this incredible city.

Candice and I enjoy a Chicago brunch with my sister Debbie and her husband Mark

My brother Joe and sisters Carol and Debbie join me in celebrating with Emily and David at the rehearsal dinner in Libertyville

We are delighted to welcome Emily to the family! We couldn’t be happier for Emily, David, and Carol.

More to come…

DJB

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