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Pete Seeger, R.I.P.

Pete SeegerPete Seeger, 1919 – 2014.

A life well-lived and a perfect example of how a banjo and a man of his convictions can change the world.

If I had a hammer I’d hammer in the morning
I’d hammer in the evening all over this land
I’d hammer out danger, I’d hammer out warning
I’d hammer out love between my brothers and my sisters
All over this land

If I had a bell I’d ring it in the morning
I’d ring it in the evening all over this land
I’d ring our danger, I’d ring out warning
I’d ring out love between my brothers and my sisters
All over this land

If I had a song I’d sing it in the morning
I’d sing it in the evening all over this land
I’d sing out danger, I’d sing out warning
I’d sing out love between my sisters and my brothers
All over this land

When I’ve got a hammer, and I’ve got a bell
And I’ve got a song to sing all over this land
It’s a hammer of justice, it’s a bell of freedom
It’s a song about love between my brothers and my sisters
All over this land

Rest in Peace, Pete Seeger.  You made this world a much, much better place.

More to come…

DJB

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Writer's Block

Wise women writers you probably don’t know (but should)

(Note:  This post was updated on March 10, 2018 and again on June 27, 2021. I would never write a post this long today, but consider this a creature of its time.)

I came to a realization last evening that the writers I most enjoy reading on the web are (almost) all women.

And once I came to that realization, I began thinking about my favorite writers you probably don’t know, but should.  Five names quickly popped into my head and just like that, this blog post was born.

These women are very different, but there is wisdom to be found in each one’s work.  I have regular communication and interaction with three but have met all five. Three are teachers (and one of the three teaches writing in Hawaii, Havana, Paris, and Washington — I’m assuming she doesn’t get paid much, but there are other benefits!). One is a former colleague at work who is still early in her craft. The other is my former Rector.  All five make a living — one way or the other — with their writing. Four of the five have blogs, which you’ll see to the right under my category of Reading Well:  Writers I Enjoy. 

So let me introduce you to these five wise writers.

Deborah Meister is the former Rector at St. Alban’s Parish in Washington, DC, where the Browns have been members since 1998 and Deborah was Rector from 2011 – 2017. She is the former Rector of Christ Church in New Brunswick, N.J. and a graduate of Berkeley Divinity School at Yale.  And while her title was Rector – and she does all the duties associated with being in charge of a large urban parish admirably – I also thought of Deborah as our own “writer in residence.”

When Frank Wade – one of the great preachers in the Episcopal Church (or any church, for that matter) – retired after more than two decades at St. Alban’s, I thought I’d never again have the opportunity to read and hear thoughtful, challenging, and serious sermons and essays from one individual on a regular basis again in my life.  For let’s face it, many priests (and certainly most “preachers”) are Johnny one-notes with a limited worldview. But when Deborah entered our life more than two years ago, it was clear that we had landed a remarkable talent who – on top of everything else – was a very good writer!

Deborah’s sermons are consistently strong and often terrific. She has an economy of language that those of us of a certain age sitting in very hard pews appreciate.  She can be very funny, as with her opening paragraphs of this December 1st, 2013 sermon:

“I was glad when they said to me, ‘Let us go to the house of the Lord.’ (Ps 122)

Yesterday, a ritual took place in my old home of Alabama. It began early in the morning, or even before the first light, when men woke to prepare the sacramental foods: chili, grilled meat, and cold beer. It continued with women and children putting on ceremonial vestures in shades of crimson and burnt orange. Together, they packed their cars, then headed in droves for congested highways, traveling for hours to the sacred (or unholy) town of Auburn.

When they arrived, thousands opened their vehicles, gathered around their tailgates to partake of the ritual meal and it’s attendant libations, then streamed into the house of worship, sang stirring music that gathered them together into one people before the start of The Offering. They plunged in wholeheartedly, hanging with bated breath upon the fortunes of their brothers upon the field of honor, crying out with a mighty roar when they saw moments of excellence or of tragedy. For a few hours, they were One People, with one common purpose, united in heart and mind and strength — and when they went home, they went renewed (at least if they were from Auburn).

I still remember my surprise when I moved to Birmingham. I thought (with some anxiety) that I was moving to the Bible Belt, where they worshiped Jeezus; I found I had moved to the Gridiron Belt. I learned that 20,000 people came to watch the high school games in my town (that’s 20,000 out of a local population of 20,300), that we needed to tape a football schedule to every computer monitor in the parish so that we didn’t accidentally plan something at church against a big game. Parish legend told of a time that a wedding had been scheduled against the Iron Bowl; the church was booked, the reception planned, the invitations in the mail, when the groom realized what they had done — and changed it to another day, service and reception and all. (A note to any of you planning to get married: if your future spouse tries anything like that, think twice!) But the groom had realized one thing: that on Iron Bowl day in Alabama, the wedding wasn’t going to be anyone’s first priority — not even his.

Priorities, of course, are what I’m talking about. What drew half the state to Auburn yesterday is the same thing that drew ancient Israel to gather themselves to the Temple three times a year for the great holy festivals of Israel: those gatherings gave them their identity, welded them together into one people, lifted them from the petty concerns of their lives and made them part of a great people united around a common purpose — to be the people of God. They were God’s team — the ones who wore God’s fringes and played by God’s rules and won God’s battles against the teams of other gods.

We don’t like to use language like that today; it sounds jingoistic, as if we’re saying that other people are not God’s team. (That’s not what I’m saying; we’ll come back to that later.) But there’s a lot in that framework that rewards examination…”

One day after the classic Iron Bowl game (remember, this was the game that Auburn won by returning a field goal attempt 107 yards on the final play), she had captured it perfectly and set us up for a lesson.

Deborah’s sermons are very good and I’ll often go back and read excerpts, but I really enjoy reading her shorter posts such as she now posts in her blog Seeking the Sacred. One posted in 2013 in the parish blog, entitled Trust is a good example of how, in a few short paragraphs, she challenges my assumptions and makes me think.

“Last Tuesday, I woke long before dawn to catch a plane and travel to Boston, where I was going to make my annual retreat. I had not slept well the night before, and was pretty bleary-eyed by the time I got to security, which may explain what happened next. The TSA agent looked at my ticket and muttered something like, ‘Are you acquainted with TSA pre-check?’ Oh, boy, I thought. Here we go again. The pulling aside, the pat-down, people going through my luggage, looking at my private things…. ‘Uh, hunh,’ I muttered, and moved on.

When I came toward the body scanners, the TSA agent called out, ‘She’s pre-check!’ and they waved me through. I stood there a few minutes, waiting for someone to come to me with a wand and conduct the search, but nobody paid me any attention. Finally, I shrugged, collected my things, and continued to the boarding area, where I flipped out my smartphone to try to figure out what had just happened. It turned out that pre-check was a status that got you out of being searched. I sat there in shock, imagining all the bad people who might now be able to get onto a plane. Finally, a word drifted into my mind, a word I do not usually associate with travel: trust. I was reeling because I had been given trust.

It came to me then that our world is not ordered by trust, or for trust. Our travel, our commerce, even our marriages, all seem to have been taken over by contingency planning in case we fail one another or do not meet our obligations. We have pre-nuptual agreements, lawsuits, security screenings — all designed to hold us accountable for the malice in our hearts.

How does this culture shape the way we think about God? Too often, perhaps, we imagine God as The Enforcer, a kind of psychotic Santa Claus who makes lists of every mistake we make, every bad thought we have, so that he can present us with an eternal lump of coal on the great Day of Judgment.

But what if God’s not like that at all? What if God is not an Enforcer to be feared, but an admirer to be loved? What if God trusts us, really trusts us, and is making lists every day of all the ways we have been hurt, of all the extenuating circumstances in our lives, of all the ways we can be let off the hook? What if God has already decided to embrace us, just because God loves us?

Then you’d have to call him Jesus. Emmanuel. God with us.

God with us. Think about it.”

Deborah, along with the final two writers in this very long post, also had a recent piece about the snow and winter. I want to share all three posts so you can see how different viewpoints can come together around one topic.  Here is Deborah’s recent Snow Day:

“When I was a child, I prayed for them. Lazy days with heaps of snow, enough to make snow men and snow angels and to flying down the big sledding hill in Chinquapin Park.

When I got to college, I realized — to my shock — that there were none. If you lived on campus (and pretty much all of us did), there was no reason not to hold class. We made up for it, though, with the Freshmen Snowball Fight: hundreds of us out on the lawn between our dorms, and snowballs flying every which way, hitting it-mattered-not-whom. And the laughter, it revived the heart.

Many years later, when I moved to Connecticut from LA, that first good snowfall I walked for miles with my dog in the darkness, all the sounds muffled, the trees and lawns and porches sparkling like diamonds in the streetlights. It was a kind of coming home.

Today, the streets were empty in DC, the schools shuttered, the government offices empty. Driving out early to run a necessary errand that took me out into the Maryland countryside, it came to me that snow days are the closest thing we have, these days, to Sabbath. They confront us with the limits on what we can do, sideline us from our daily activities, help us to see that the world really does go on without us for a day. They liberate us from the insistent clamor of voices telling us what we ‘must’ do, ‘right now.’

For some people, of course, this was no day off. The plow drivers, the EMTs in the ambulances, the emergency room staff, power company workers, all of these found that their work was crucial. Give thanks for them. But, if you are not one of them, savor your time. It is a gift.

It is always a gift, of course. That’s what days like this one show us: the great grace just to be alive, that we do not have to earn it by the sweat of our brow, that it is God’s wish that you enjoy your days on this good earth.

What did you do with your empty hands, your empty time? Did you savor the gift?”

Our mission statement — and coffee cups—- at St. Alban’s say that “We welcome the faithful, the seeker, and the doubter….” I often find myself in those last two categories, but I appreciate the fact that Deborah’s words – written and spoken – still have meaning for me.


Elizabeth Bobrick has made an appearance before in More to Come… when I came across one of my favorite sports essays that isn’t really about sports.  Her Oriole Magic is a terrific piece of writing about a PhD classics student at Johns Hopkins (Bobrick) who stumbles across the endlessly fascinating game of baseball in the midst of a Baltimore Oriole drive to the World Series and – in the process – discovers something about herself.  Our family had the pleasure of meeting Elizabeth and her husband at Wesleyan University, where she is now a classics professor, while the twins were on the college search. We’ve sent an occasional email back-and-forth over time. Elizabeth received her PhD in Classical Studies from Johns Hopkins University. Her work has appeared in Fiction, Salon, Creative Nonfiction, in the anthologies The Anatomy of Baseball and The City as Comedy, and other publications. She has taught at the University of Virginia, the University of Missouri, and Wesleyan University.

Elizabeth’s website can be found here.  You should take the time to read Oriole Magic, an excerpt from a forthcoming memoir entitled The Myth of the Moon, and a wonderfully funny piece of Elizabeth’s entitled Die Santa! Die!  This last one fits perfectly with my world view (we even had the same remedy to Santa, which is to emphasize St. Nicholas Day), and you’ll get a taste of it in this excerpt:

“The once innocent saint who put candy in children’s shoes on Dec. 6th and encouraged secret acts of kindness has long since become the incarnate spirit of getting. He is a debased pusher for that peculiarly American idea that you get more things, more toys, more clothes, more candy, because you are “good,” not because it just turned out that way due to matters of chance, such as what kind of job, or values, your parents have.

Case in point. Last year, we were visiting friends a few days after Christmas. ‘Look what Santa brought me!’ cried the sole child occupant of the household, gesturing toward her playroom, an Ali Baba cave of new toys. Our eldest daughter, then 7, mentally compared her own ample but relatively modest stack, and sighed, almost to herself, ‘I guess I wasn’t that good this year.’

You could have knocked me over. ‘You’re not that good any year!’ I wanted to shout. ‘Neither is Lily! No kid is!’

Where had our daughter gotten the idea that if she’d been better behaved, she’d get more presents? Not from my husband or me. We’d never waged an active anti-Santa campaign, but neither had we ever told her that being ‘good’ made you Santa’s special friend. We left her on her own to figure out what she’d like to believe about Santa. Big mistake.

Now Mr. Ho Ho Ho had made my daughter feel bad. This brought on the mother bear response, one which I could growl only internally: ‘Die, Santa. Die.’

But what could I tell her? The truth? ‘Lily has more presents than you do because her daddy walked out on her mommy and feels guilty; her mommy is trying to show her that life without daddy will be just as nice; and her mommy’s mommy and her daddy’s mommy are trying to show who’s the best grandma.’ Or should I just let it go with a Mae West-ian ‘Goodness had nothing to do with it.’”

Every now and then I just pop Elizabeth’s name into my Google search and see what comes up.  It is always worth the time.


Janet Hulstrand is a dear friend who is a writer, editor,and teacher based in Silver Spring, Maryland. Her essays and articles have been published in Bonjour Paris, the Christian Science Monitor, International Educator, Smithsonian.com and many other publications.  Since 1997 she has created, directed, and taught literature courses for the Education Abroad programs at Hunter and Queens Colleges of the City University of New York in Paris, Hawaii, Florence, and Cuba: she also teaches literary and cultural classes at Politics and Prose bookstore in Washington, DC.  Janet is the co-director of The Essoyes School, and she blogs at Writing from the Heart, Reading for the Road.  Janet has recently joined the Brown family for Christmas Day dinners, and this is a tradition that – from our point of view – we hope she continues for a long time.  Talking with Janet – even when you haven’t seen her for months – is always a joy.  She is so thoughtful, and her worldview is so wide.

Janet’s most recent blog post is a wonderful remembrance of her friend — the ex-pat Parisian poet — James A. Emmanuel.  Janet struck up a friendship with Emmanuel when he would come and read to her students.  This is a lovely, and loving, tribute.

I’ve also enjoyed talking with Janet about her recent trips to Havana to teach a course entitled Cuba: A Literary Adventure.  My experience in Havana dates to November of 2001, when I spent a week in the city with several preservation colleagues to meet with Cuban officials and discuss conservation issues in the old city.  Janet’s essay, Lessons Learned in Cuba takes as its jumping off point a comment made to her by a client just before her first trip:  “You’ll love it, and it will break your heart.”

“Some of the lessons you learn in Cuba can’t really be learned until you are home again.

Then, when you have been home  less than 24 hours, you realize that you have just spent three weeks in a place where you have heard hardly a cross word, no fighting at all, and have experienced the notable absence of most of the ugly sounds of urban life you are accustomed to as part of the daily background of your life. You realize you have spent three weeks in a place where there is just much less ambient tension in the air than what you’re used to.

That is because you realize that in the space of the past hour your body has tensed up, as you absorb the negative energy of an aggressive driver practically running you off the road, laying on his horn as he tears past you; that the couple arguing angrily as they close up the iron grate of a store you are walking by, has caused a kind of general fear of imminent violence, and tension, to reenter your life. You can feel your breathing becoming labored, your heart racing. You realize that this life is no good for you, or for anyone.

It is then that you remember what one little Cuban boy chose to say, when asked by one of your students what message he would like to send with her to New York. ‘Aqui nosotros no estamos tan bien: pero estamos felizes.’  (‘Here, we’re not doing so well: but we’re happy.’)

Coming from a country where the reverse is so often true–we are awash in wealth and everything that money can buy, and we’re still not happy–these words go right straight to the heart.

Read the entire essay.  It is thought-provoking, as all good writing should be.

The other thing I like about Janet is that she regularly comments on posts I put on More to Come…. I only wish I could write as well as these five women, but I tend to dash off my posts without taking the time to polish them, and I don’t have the innate skill that let’s me get away with such sloppiness.  But Janet — bless her heart — always has a kind word that just makes my day!


Julia Rocchi was a colleague of mine at the National Trust for Historic Preservation.  Her personal tagline when we worked together was “Big hair, big mouth, big plans.” And while I haven’t seen the middle attribute, I admire Julia’s passion and love for life and her writing.

A graduate of Syracuse and a current graduate student in writing, Julia — like me — has a personal blog where she can contemplate life outside of work. Unlike me, she works on her craft and posts regularly.  When I take the time to browse through her recent posts, I always find something that makes me stop and think.  Julia writes under the Italian Mother Syndrome moniker and explains her malady as follows:

“Italian Mother Syndrome, more commonly known as IMS. To my knowledge, I am one of the only young women out there afflicted with this rare, untreatable disease.

I was diagnosed with IMS as early as high school. Symptoms included doorway-wide hips, a moustache like my mother’s, and my persistent clarion call of ‘Eat something!!!’ My friends started to suspect something was amiss when I kept getting cast as mothers, old women, and tough broads in school theatrical productions. Thank God they were paying attention–I thought all young women with any sense acted this way. Turns out I was wrong.

In the years since, I’ve slowly come to accept my situation. True, I worry about everything and everybody constantly. I fawn over every baby that crosses my lap. I will prepare fresh, healthy food for anyone whose stomach makes so much as a peep. I adore hugging people, and then smacking them. I was recently cast as a 40-year-old woman in a community play. (The man who played my 18-year-old son was 10 years older than me in real life.) I would rather be married than date. And I will never be a size 2.

But when all is said and done, IMS isn’t such a bad thing to have. It’s made me passionate, earthy, loving, and dedicated. Nobody’s complained about all the free meals and hugs. I’ll take it.

Now for god’s sakes, mangia. (Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, what am I gonna do witchoo …”

My wife came from a family with an Italian father and an Irish mother. (A mixed marriage!)  I get it.

Julia’s recent Poem for a Snowy Day is the second of three winter-themed posts I’ve included:

The Snowflakes’ Exhortation

We’re urging you to please hang up the day.
Yes, leave it there, beside the entranceway,
no bother if it puddles on the floor.
Hang up your schedule, your to-the-minute plans,
come back outside and downward drift with us
instead, come join our dainty slam dance.
Wind, all tug-of-war tyrannical,
will bellow, try to grab our thin barbed arms
but fail: You can’t contain the infinite.
Our invitation’s in the whispered whoosh,
our rushing, hushing hurtle toward the earth
that never ends in craters or kabooms.
What comes down can’t go up, we like to say.
Accumulate with us, then. Settle in.

Prayer #270: Snow Day

No quiet like snow quiet, an icy genteel finger landing on your lips to signal you to hush. Hush your worries, hush your fears, just watch … watch the swirling curling, the disorderly design, the tiny specks that mine what little light is left and stir dim hours.

May peace be to our hearts what snow is to our eyes — chaos frozen to magnify perfection.

Amen.

The prayer at the end is one of Julia’s touches that I enjoy most about her writing.  She puts her thoughts together and offers them up. Like most of the women writers I enjoy, Julia tackles the mundane (e.g., why she hates to frame pictures and hang them on the wall), love (e.g., the dating contract), and life in a way that imparts some wisdom along the way.  When I’m reading Julia I have a sense (but just a sense, as she’s a bit older) of what Andrew and Claire are going through as they grow into adulthood.  Having worked with Julia for a while now, I just hope Andrew and Claire approach their lives with the same passion and wonder.


Robyn Ryle and I have met only once, briefly, when she was the speaker at the final session of our National Main Street Conference in Baltimore. Robyn is a sociologist who has written for the Boston Literary Magazine, Little Indiana Quarterly Magazine, and Offbeat Families, among others, and is the author of the textbook Questioning Gender: A Sociological Exploration which grew out of her teaching experiences at Hanover College.  I can’t tell you how many “gender” discussions we’ve had with Andrew and Claire around the dining room table over the past four years (the number is higher than I can count on two hands), so I’m thinking I should pick up the new edition of Robyn’s textbook that comes out this spring.

The main reason I return again and again to Robyn’s blog – You Think Too Much — is because I was hooked on her writing through the wonderful talk she gave at the Main Street Conference:  The Corner Store and the Coffee Shop:  Sociological Reflections on Place.  She says what I always want to say in my work and writing – only Robyn is much more articulate.  You owe it to yourself to read the entire essay, but here’s a snippet:

“Thank you all so much for having me here today.  It’s good to be in a room full of people who love place, appreciate place and are working to build great places.

I’m here because I’m a sociologist who studies places and community.  But I’m a sociologist who studies places and communities because I’m personally obsessed with places and people and the connections between those things.  I loved places long before I loved sociology, and in fact, my love for places is part of what led me to sociology.

I’m a placist.  This is a word invented by a friend of mine-Sara Patterson-who is a historian of religion and is also obsessed with place, but with place and religion…with sacred places.  Placist is not in the dictionary….yet.  I give you all permission to start using it freely.  There is a word in the dictionary that describes love of place.  Topophila.  Topophilia is a good enough word, but I think topophilia sounds like a disease.  Like something you contract or a kind of madness.  ‘I’m sorry, I can’t come today.  I’ve come down with topophilia.’  Or, ‘I’m a topophiliac.’

I like placist instead.  It is an ideological stance.  It is a conviction, a passion, a movement you choose to align yourself with.  It is an ‘ist.’  My students today are very scared of ‘ists’ and ‘isms,’ but I believe we need more ‘ists’ in the world.  I am a feminist.  An environmentalist.  An anti-racist.  A place-ist.  I am unapologetically committed to places.  My love for them sometimes makes me inarticulate, so let me warn you.  Sometimes I think there are no words good enough for places and what they do.

It’s the end of the conference, and I’m sure you’re on the brink of information overload, so I’m not going to stand up here and summarize sociological research for you.  Instead, I’m going to talk about my own experiences with places and how those experiences are informed by my sociological perspective.  As a sociologist, I’m interested in how places shape social life.  So, I ask questions about how places shape our social interactions and the kind of communities in which we live.  I’m interested in how places create or contribute to existing inequalities and in how places shape our identities, the way we understand who we are and how we fit into the world.  So I’m going to start with the place I’m from and end where the place I live now and consider some of the sociological questions raised by these locations.  I want to think about what the places we create, and the places we preserve and the places we love say about us as people.”

Robyn goes on to describe how an old corner store, since demolished for a parking lot in her hometown, shaped her – and her story reminds me so much of the grocery store that was in a converted church building just down the street from my grandmother’s house in Franklin.  I’ve referenced that store in talks I’ve given over the years and even in a More to Come… blog post, but never as effectively as Robyn does here.

Now it would be nice to include Robyn because she happened to write something once that touches on both my professional life and personal history…but that wouldn’t be enough to get her into my Wise Women Writers post.  Nope, she’s here because she has these great little vignettes on You Think Too Much that perfectly capture life in a small town.  Robyn lives in Madison, Indiana, one of the country’s great Main Street communities.  For fifteen years, I lived in Staunton, Virginia, another of the country’s great Main Street communities and a place I miss about once a week.  I get what Robyn is writing about in her Madison Monday posts.  And there is a lot of wisdom in these often humorous tales of life away from the coasts.  Just read the short piece on driving the speed limit, and you’ll probably be hooked as well.

“Today I picked up my book of daily yoga and read, ‘Today, drive the speed limit.’ That was all.

It wasn’t very profound compared to other days when I’ve contemplated gratefulness or stated out loud my intention for the day or cultivated my inner child. Just, ‘Drive the speed limit.’ I guess if you’re coming up with a different yoga meditation for every day of the year, you might very well run dry by October, I thought.

I am not what you would call a speed demon. I certainly drive faster than my husband. I’ll admit that sometimes when I’m riding with him I stare at the speedometer pointedly, and he is kind enough to ignore me. I am one of those people who is annoyed if the person in front of me on the road is driving the actual speed limit. ‘Who do they think they are?’ I wonder. ‘Don’t they know that you’re supposed to go at least 5-10 miles over the speed limit? It’s, like, a rule.’

But my book of daily yoga has not led me astray yet, so I got in the car and drove the speed limit. Thirty miles an hour on 2nd Street downtown, which was not so hard. Thirty miles an hour on Main Street was harder, but I did it. I slowed down. And I thought.

When someone drives slow in front of me, I get angry. I feel they have violated some inherent right of mine to go fast. To get to the next place. To move on. To get it over with and on to the next thing. Driving the speed limit it occurred to me that this is crazy.

First, I have no god-given right to go fast and, second, why do I want to? What’s the rush?”

In Five Reasons Why This Winter Will Be the Death of Me, Robyn takes a little harder-edged look at snow than the earlier posts by Deborah and Julia…and I love her for posting a picture of a snow-covered tree with the caption “Okay, this is gorgeous, but the rest sucks.”  Of course, our snow will eventually go away (maybe) here in DC.  In the Midwest, you are in it for the long haul. Robyn’s five reasons?

“- The house smells like cabbage and probably will until April. My husband’s idea for our winter salvation was a slow cooker, which I’m all behind. The problem arises from a marked difference of opinion on the subject of cabbage. I feel it’s the scourge of the vegetable world. He does not. Regardless, I’m stuck with the smell of cabbage until we can open the windows again–April if we’re lucky.

– A little part of me dies every time I sit down on the ice-cold toilet seat. A friend did direct me towards this solution, which I’m seriously considering.

– Our child might never go to school again. And, you know, I’m totally concerned about how this affects her education and her own sense of well-being. The social deprivation and all that. But mostly, I’m just worried about how I will hold onto my sanity. The beautiful thing about schools is that they take your children away for big chunks of the day, and this is good for everyone. I’m considering giving the road crews my phone number and offering to help.

– Everything is harder in winter. There are whole weeks when I can’t open the back door to my car. Buckling your seat belt over a bulky coat and four layers of clothes becomes a not-very-funny physical comedy routine. My husband and I can’t hold hands when we walk around town for fear one of us will slip on the ice and pull the other one down with them. It takes 30 minutes to get your car scraped and warm enough to move anywhere.

– I almost stopped writing and, yes, I blame it on winter. And maybe the form rejection I got from my favorite literary magazine. And that horrible feeling you have when you know your current work in progress needs yet another edit, and will need another edit after that, and another–you get the idea. All of this seems harder to bear in winter, especially a winter with no end in sight.

But, thank god, this isn’t Game of Thrones, and the winter will end eventually (right?). And I have not stopped writing. Like a car in subzero temperatures, it takes a little longer to get going, but I putter along. In the meantime, if you see me and catch a whiff of cabbage, you’ll know why.”

A woman who hates cabbage and can even throw in a Game of Thrones mention — what’s not to like!

There you have it: five very different writers, at different points in their career, but who all have something to say.  Thanks to Elizabeth, Janet, Deborah, Julia, and Robyn.  And keep writing.

More to come…

DJB

 
Petco Panorama

Baseball, Springsteen, infomercials and anything else that comes to mind

Update: Since this blog was written, Joe Posnanski — like many bloggers — has shifted platforms one or more times. The first link in the post takes you to his current Substack page, where you can also find a link to his sports writing at The Athletic. Some of his posts will now be behind paywalls, while others are no longer archived. It is the nature of the digital platform beast, so reader beware.

On my way home from work this evening, I decided to open my iPad to Joe Posnanski’s blog and just read and read until the train pulled up at the Silver Spring station.  Thirty-five minutes of bliss.

Why?

Perhaps I wanted to think about something besides work.  As my colleague Allie said yesterday, “It has been a very long short week.”

Perhaps I am really getting sick of this endless string of days with temperatures in the single digits and wind chills below zero. (I vote for this as the real reason.  I don’t mind cold, but enough already!)

Perhaps it is my first step in 2014 in my own personal baseball preseason, a topic I’ve written on before.

Or perhaps I just needed my regular fix of Joe.  What’s not to love in a blog with the subtitle of “Curiously long post about baseball, Springsteen, infomercials and anything else that comes to mind.”

If you don’t know Joe Posnanski, you haven’t looked over to the right in my “Baseball Online” links and clicked on his name. Posnanski’s own site includes the following from his very clever “About Joe” section:

Posnanski was Senior Writer at Sports on Earth, a joint venture of USA Today and MLB Advanced media. He was Senior Writer at Sports Illustrated from 2009 to 2012. The last year he was named National Sportswriter of the Year (by the Sportswriters and Sportscasters Hall of Fame). He also was named Best Sportswriter at the Blogs With Balls 4 Conference, earning him a muppet that looks like him. This is easily Posnanski’s daughters’ favorite award. The Baseball Bloggers Association named him their inaugural best online writer and renamed the award “The Joe Posnanski Award,” another fantastic honor though not quite a Muppet that looks like him.

It also tells about his life’s luck in living near losing teams:

Joe grew up in Cleveland, where he spent the bulk of his time rooting for losing teams. He and his family lived in Kansas City for 15 years, where he spent the bulk of his time writing about losing teams. Joe, his wife Margo and their two daughters Elizabeth and Katie now live in Charlotte, N.C., where they are in close proximity to losing teams.

This is clearly a guy who understands that there is more to life (and sports) than winning. I want to share a few of the gems from Joe’s recent columns.  If you get tired of the baseball columns, go all the way to the bottom to read my favorite of the ones I read tonight, which has nothing to do with sports.

Postgame is a very thoughtful blog about Richard Sherman’s recent postgame rant in the NFC Championship game last Sunday.  The more I read about Sherman, the more I like him.

Brooks Robinson, part of Joe’s series of the 100 greatest baseball players of all time.  This is Joe’s praise for defensive genius. (NOTE: Link no longer works)

The 60 Minutes Report, in which Joe describes everyone’s general “a pox on all their houses” reaction to the A-Rod, Tony Bosch, Bud Selig, MLB, CBS News mess that was the recent 60 Minutes report on A-Rod and PEDs.

Hall of Fame Recap, which is Joe’s take – in a post only die-hard baseball fans could love – about the mess that is the Hall of Fame voting process, even though they did get the Greg Maddux/Tom Glavine vote right.

And finally…my favorite Joe post of the ones I read this evening.  The “Greatest Commercial Ever” post, which is titled You don’t have to be lonely.  The commercial is for FarmersOnly.com – a dating site for country folk who are single.  Joe’s post begins by explaining why You don’t have to be lonely is the greatest commercial ever.

That is the commercial for the Farmer’s Only dating site, and it’s so brilliant — so utterly dazzling — that, like a great novel, I’m constantly finding something new and unexpectedly luminous in it. What I think makes the Farmer’s Only commercial even better than legends of the past…is that it hits an extraordinary high point, then somehow hits another higher point, then hits yet another even higher point and then finally, when you believe that the volume is all the way to 10 and there’s no place left to go, goes one higher.

I read the post on the train, then watched the video when I arrived home.  Both are hilarious and – at least to Joe’s mind – the commercial itself is true genius.  You be the judge:

Thank you Joe.  You made my night.

More to come…

DJB

Put on a sweater like Patti Page

I loved the recent Treehugger post In Praise of the Dumb House.

Go ahead.  Click on the link and read the blog post from Lloyd Alter.  When you get to the picture of Patti Page, you may laugh out loud.  I did.

Alter talks about all the newfangled gadgets to keep your house temperature perfect – and environmentally correct. But he points out the problem with this line of thinking:

As Victor Olgyay noted exactly 50 years ago in his book Design with Climate, comfort is not determined by temperature alone, but by a combination of temperature, humidity and air movement. The Nest thermostat turns an air conditioner or furnace on or off, where you might be just as comfortable opening a window or turning on a fan. That’s what you would do in a dumb home. Instead, the Nest causes you to use energy to do what used to be free.

He then goes on to say:

There is also another problem with the smart thermostat: people no longer put on such smart sweater sets like Patti Page used to wear.

Exactly.

This rang so true to me.  Every day during the holiday break, a member of our family who shall go nameless but who has become acclimated to Southern California weather would come downstairs – often wearing pajama bottoms, a t-shirt, and standing  barefoot –  to exclaim, “I’m cold.  Turn up the heat.”  To which I – attired in my natty pullover or warm hoodie “repping” said family member’s college – would reply, “Put on a damn sweater.”  Now I know I should have added, “like Patti Page!”

…because we are too lazy to put on a sweater or take off a jacket, we have let the thermostat and the mechanical engineer behind it change the way we make buildings.” A smart thermostat might actually increase the energy used, not because it drops the temperature when you are not home, but because it increases it while you are there, when you could in fact get just as comfortable by putting on a smart looking sweater.

Now I know I’ve really turned into my father.  This is exactly the type of thing he would say.  For example, when I go around our new offices at the Watergate and turn off lights in meeting rooms (that would later cut themselves off automatically), some folks look at me quizzically.  I usually respond by saying, “Sorry, but my father worked his entire career for the Tennessee Valley Authority.  When we left a light on in a room, he would come in, flip the switch to off, and say ‘I work for the electric company, I don’t own it.'”

Yep, Daddy would definitely be in the “put on a sweater like Patti Page” camp.

More to come…

DJB

A front seat at the polar vortex

My new office provided me with an unexpected — but fascinating — front seat at the polar vortex.

One thing I love about our new offices at the Watergate Office Building is that we have a terrific view of the Potomac River.  When I arrived yesterday morning (Tuesday, January 7th), I initially recovered from the 4 degree temperature and then looked out my window.  Surprise!  I had not thought about how the river would respond to the cold weather, but I saw ice beginning to form.  I made a mental note to check back frequently.

The first picture – shown at the top of the post – was taken in the late morning on Tuesday from my office window.  As you can see, ice patches were already forming across the entire span of the river.

Late in the afternoon, I took the next picture from the same vantage point.  While it is difficult to see, a full sheet was quickly forming.

Ice on the Potomac. late afternoon, January 7, 2014

Since I knew the temperatures were not rising above the freezing point overnight, I made a mental note to check the river again the following morning.  Just after arriving this morning, we saw a full sheet of ice across the Potomac.

Ice on the Potomac, morning of January 8, 2014

This was fascinating.  I don’t ever recall seeing a major river freeze over — and certainly not in less than 24 hours.  At lunch I headed out to the river’s edge along Georgetown and took the following two pictures: the first looking at the Key Bridge and the second looking back at the Watergate and the Kennedy Center.

The Potomac, looking toward the Key Bridge, Noon, January 8, 2014
The Potomac River, looking toward the Watergate, Noon on January 8, 2014

It is great being so close to such a wonderful part of nature as the Potomac.  I’m grateful I had the chance to see this overnight transformation.

Of course, I had a much more typical front seat view of the polar vortex when I arrived home this evening and found a broken water pipe in our garage.  Oh well.  Take the good with the bad.

More to come…

DJB

Just What is the BBVA Compass Bowl?

Bowl NamesI called my father – the long-suffering Vanderbilt alum – earlier today to celebrate the fact that the Commodores were in their third straight post-season bowl game. I believe I noted that the “end of the world was near.”

For a family that grew up watching Vanderbilt football, having a successful football program does bring worries about the balance of nature being seriously out-of-whack. My father always referenced the 1945 Alabama vs. Vanderbilt game as typical of what a school that – how shall we say this delicately – cared somewhat more about academics than the rest of its Southeastern Conference brethren had to deal with on a season-by-season basis.  According to family lore, Alabama had stockpiled players in ROTC in 1945 as the war effort was winding down.  The result:  a 71-0 shellacking.  To this day, I have never heard my father root for the Crimson Tide.  (For those who join us in our feelings toward Alabama football, I recommend Brian Phillips’ hilarious take on Nick Saban’s Nightmare following the Tide’s “upset” loss to Oklahoma in the 2014 Sugar Bowl.)

When I called my father, we noted that Vanderbilt was playing in one of those bowl games named for some corporate entity:  the BBVA Compass Bowl, to be exact. Daddy had just sent an email, with the cartoon at the top of this post and an accompanying article by David Horsey from the LA Times, attached.  The entire article will bring a laugh, but I’ll just give you a taste here:

The proliferation of college football bowls with goofy corporate names must be making at least a few players and coaches cringe. Doesn’t it feel like a dubious honor to be the winner of the Buffalo Wild Wings Bowl? That is the distinction Kansas State can claim, having beaten Michigan 31 to 14. Does the victory come with a side of fries?…

Being a Rose Bowl champion or an Orange Bowl victor carries a tradition that means something special. Winning a bowl named after yet another restaurant chain — Outback Steakhouse, for instance — seems just a bit cheap.

Is it better to play in the bowls named for companies that deal in sports equipment or sports medicine, like Russell Athletic or Advocare? How about a bank? There’s one sponsored by Capital One and another called BBVA Compass named after a Spanish-owned banking firm. That bowl, at least, has gone up a notch in naming rights having formerly been the PapaJohns.com Bowl. Sadly, there is still a bowl in Mobile, Ala., named for a website: the GoDaddy.com Bowl.

Great.  My father’s alma mater finally starts to play good football, and they miss getting to play in a bowl named for a pizza chain.  A pizza chain, no less, that has been best known recently for the CEO’s comments about providing health care to his employees by raising the price of a pie on his customers. A CEO, it should be noted, who is very well compensated.

Such is the way of corporate bowl sponsorship.  That bank is sounding better by the minute.  In any event, Vanderbilt is off to a good first quarter in the BBVA Compass Bowl.  Go Commodores!

More to come…

DJB

Best bluegrass of 2013

This year brought us some very good bluegrass music – much of it coming out of Alison Brown’s Compass Records in Nashville. In looking at the different albums that came to my attention in 2013, three of my top five bluegrass releases of the year came from this eclectic roots music label which has been stretching boundaries and introducing the world to exciting new artists for almost two decades.

Dear Sister

First up in the More to Come… “Best of Bluegrass 2013” list is the wonderful Claire Lynch and her Dear Sister project (and not just because she signed my CD cover).  This is a great group of songs that include tunes I began writing about almost two years ago.  The title track comes from letters written before the Civil War battle of Stones River – fought near my hometown of Murfreesboro, Tennessee. I’ll Be Alright Tomorrow is a new working of the Osborne Brothers classic, that sounds just right in the hands of the newly minted 2013 International Bluegrass Music Association (IBMA) Female Vocalist of the Year. Claire’s killer band gets to showcase its chops throughout Dear Sister, including bassist Mark Schatz considerable hambone skills on Buttermilk Road/The Arbours.

Dear Sister is another in the impressive catalog of Claire Lynch recordings.  Enjoy the video of Once the Teardrops Start to Fall from this project. You will get a sense of the terrific music this wonderful songbird and her band of outstanding musicians continue to make.

Frank Solivan and Dirty Kitchen On the Edge

Frank Solivan and Dirty Kitchen‘s On the Edge is an impressive work for the second release from this Washington, DC-based band. Solivan (who doubles as a chef – hence the catchy band name) is an impressive mandolin player who has assembled a dynamite group of pickers, including IBMA 2013 Banjo Player of the Year Mike Munford and IBMA 2013 Momentum Award winner Chris Luquette.  To understand how this group jells, it doesn’t get any better than the description of the band from an Irish Times review:

If Tim O’Brien and Alison Brown ever had a love child, it might just be Frank Solivan. This newgrass/bluegrass foursome spirals through skin-tight banjo picking, razor-sharp mandolin and jazz-tinged concentric circles – all with a degree of control that balances technical precision and improvisational virtuosity.

Indeed!

The project begins with a bang on I Fell Short (On Standing Tall) thanks, in part, to guest Rob Ickes’ dobro. A bluegrass remake of the old Box Tops hit The Letter shows these guys can handle a wide range of styles – and make great new music in the process. M80 is a terrific instrumental, where Munford (the tune’s author) and Luquette really shine. On the Edge of Letting Go tackles mental illness – a topic not often explored in traditional bluegrass – with a sensitivity and restrained musical accompaniment.  On the Edge ends with a jazz-infused instrumental, Bedrock.

Most commentators have said this is the project to put Frank Solivan and Dirty Kitchen in the top-tier of bluegrass bands, and I agree.

The first video I posted with this blog has been removed, so treat yourself to the band’s version of I Fell Short (of Standing Tall).

Noam Pikelny Plays Kenny Baker Plays Bill Monroe

The third Compass Records release to make my “Best Bluegrass of 2013” list is one of the coolest concept albums to come along in years – banjo phenom Noam Pikelny recreating the famous 1976 Kenny Baker Plays Bill Monroe album.

In Noam Pikelny Plays Kenny Baker Plays Bill Monroe, Pikelny recreates the twelve Monroe instrumentals that long-time Monroe fiddler Kenny Baker included on his landmark album. For those who have heard Pikelny (the winner of the inaugural Steve Martin Prize for Excellence in Banjo and Bluegrass) with the Punch Brothers or from his earlier Compass release Beat The Devil and Carry A Rail, this is as close to straight bluegrass as Pikelny’s going to get.

The players Pikelny assembled for this project are cream of the crop bluegrass pickers:  Stuart Duncan on fiddle, Ronnie McCoury on mandolin, Bryan Sutton on guitar, and Mike Bub on bass. The first track, Road to Columbus, has Pikelny beginning with a straightforward bluegrass banjo break, but on the second and especially third breaks, he explores the fretboard in ways that Earl (rest his soul) never imagined.  Jerusalem Ridge – one of my all time favorite Monroe instrumentals – gets a similar treatment.  Candice and I heard Pikelny on the Sirius XM Bluegrass Junction show Track By Track just last week, and it was fascinating to hear him talk about this project in general and Jerusalem Ridge in particular.  The ending double banjo/fiddle duet with Stuart Duncan is short, but sweet.

Noam Pikelney

For lovers of instrumental bluegrass, there isn’t a false note on this record. I’ve posted a video of “Noam Pikelny and Friends” playing the Monroe instrumental Wheel Hoss, which is a cut from the Kenny Baker/Bill Monroe project.  Pikelny, Bryan Sutton, and Luke Bulla have especially wonderful solos. Who knew fingers could fly that fast!?!  (Well, I did, but then I can’t imagine mine going at one-quarter of that speed.)  As much as I love the progressive work that Pikelny does these days, I am glad he took the time to return to some bluegrass roots on this project, and I applaud Compass for backing this type of work.  Enjoy!

The SteelDrivers Hammer Down

I’ll admit it…I love The SteelDrivers type of bluegrass, even though purists would point out that their lead singer sounds more Muscle Shoals than Kentucky hills and some members of the band play a lot of commercial country in their day jobs as Nashville studio musicians.

The group’s 2013 Rounder Records release Hammer Down continues the tradition of their first two recordings – great songwriting, soulful vocals, and skillful instrumental treatments.  This is the first of the group’s three albums with Gary Nichols taking over the lead vocals from founding member Chris Stapleton, and he more than holds his own.

Hammer Down begins with the haunting Shallow Grave about the burying of an addiction. (“I buried my love with a silver spade, Laid her down in the shallow grave, Can’t keep love in the cold, cold ground, Nothing in the earth can hold her down.”) The harmonies between Nichols, fiddler Tammy Rogers, and bassist Mike Fleming are one of the things that make this band’s work so satisfying – and they are off to a strong start on Shallow Grave.

One commentator noted that a trio of dysfunctional relationship songs starts the album…but I think that’s where this band makes its living. The trio ends with the sprightly When You Don’t Come Home, Rogers’ harmonies giving this tune the perfect honky-tonk feel.  Ditto for Wearin’ a Hole (in a honky-tonk floor). The SteelDrivers do break up the fast-paced melancholy with some slow-paced melancholy on occasion (give a listen to I’ll Be There), but this is a band that is best when it is ripping through some whiskey-soaked tune. Hell on Wheels is a fun take on the story of a wild young woman living in a small rural town.  That tune, plus Cry No Mississippi (another small town story) and When I’m Gone are a very satisfying trio of songs to end Hammer Down.

The SteelDrivers have survived the departure of two founding members and yet continue to make great music.  Take a listen to the video of When You Don’t Come Home and see if you don’t agree.

The Stray Birds "Echo Sessions"

My fifth choice isn’t really bluegrass and it really isn’t an album…but I’ve fallen in love with The Stray Birds and just want to write about them.

In 2013, this folk, Americana, roots music outfit put out a five-song EP recorded at the Echo Mountain Studios in North Carolina (hence the project’s name). Echo Sessions is dedicated to five songwriters that have touched the band members through the years.  I recently heard the group’s terrific take on Jimmie Rodgers’ Blue Yodel #7 (Anniversary Blue Yodel) from the Echo Sessions and was smitten.

So who are songwriters that rank with these three musicians? The EP begins with the Townes Van Zandt tune Loretta, and then moves to the beautiful Susannah Clark song I’ll Be Your San Antonio Rose.  The Louvin Brothers contribute When I Stop Dreaming, followed by Rodgers – one of the most influential songwriters of all time.  The EP ends with Nanci Griffith’s I Wish It Would Rain.  Not a bad line-up of inspirational songwriters and not a bad EP for one-day’s live session.

The Stray Birds are making a splash on the festival and club circuit (they open for the Seldom Scene here at the Birchmere on New Year’s Eve), so this is more a “keep your eye on them” note than a “Best of 2013” post.  Look for their second full-length album in the Spring of 2014. And to prove that others see them as bluegrass, I’m posting a video from WAMU’s Bluegrass Country of the tune Time in Squares.  Enjoy.

Just a final note about how this list is chosen.  Not being a professional reviewer, I don’t receive dozens of CDs to review. I do listen to a fair amount of bluegrass on WAMU’s Bluegrass Country and Sirius XM’s Bluegrass Junction.  The latter’s Track By Track show is a great way to hear new music all year long.  But I know I miss some bands and performers that others would put on any “best of” list for the year.  These just happen to be the ones that caught my ear and led me to purchase them for my own collection. I hope you find something you’ll like in this grouping.  I can’t wait to see what 2014 brings.

More to come…

DJB

 

Farewell 2013; Hello 2014

Brown Family December 22, 2013
It is the season for musing on the year that is rapidly passing away and making resolutions for the year ahead.  I tend to use this blog to reflect on items throughout the year (see – among many others – thoughts on the Presidential Inaugural Prayer Service, preseason baseball, wonderful European travel, fathers, live music set in the midst of the beautiful Shenandoah Valley, “stay-cations”, holiday weekends, our year in photos, and 21st birthday celebrations.) So I have only one additional reflection today…but I have several resolutions.  I’ve found that when I call out my resolutions publicly, I tend to keep them.  (Funny how that works!)  But first, let’s look back.

I am a lucky man.  The picture above pretty much explains it all.  As Claire and Andrew have passed significant life milestones, I have often written about my wonderful children.  They aren’t perfect, but they do give me a great deal of pleasure (when they aren’t driving me crazy.  Have you seen those rooms!?!) However, I’ve been reminded over this holiday season how lucky I am – in fact how lucky the three of us are – to have Candice in our lives as wife and mother.  I like the Urban Dictionary definition of “marrying up” – as they note that “back in the day this would have been used of marrying someone higher up in society, but nowadays it’s just generally when someone is punching above their weight in the romance department.”  That fits me to a T.

We have had a wonderful holiday season in 2013 due – in large measure – to Candice and the way she is so intentional about our life today.  Because the twins’ birthday comes close to Christmas Day, we’ve traditionally focused more on Advent during December, leaving the decorations, gifts, and parties until the 25th and the 12 days of Christmas.  And this year, we had an especially thoughtful Advent season, that included daily reflections; lots of music, including Andrew’s solo in Messiah, two different services of Lessons and Carols, and the traditional Institute of Musical Tradition holiday concert with the talented Robin Bullock; time to reflect with friends; and wonderful meals both at home and in some great restaurants.  (Check out Gracie’s if you are ever in Providence, and then eat breakfast and lunch in their affiliated bakery, named Ellie’s.  Candice found them both – Gracie’s on our last trip and Ellie’s on this visit – and I’ve seldom eaten so well!)

This year Candice has led the family renaissance in health. After working faithfully on a daily basis to come back from her double whammy of severe concussion and hip replacement, she has supported me as I’ve tried to live a more healthful life.  (More on that below.) With her intentional focus, she has reached out to friends and has made connections a big part of our life as empty nesters. My job wouldn’t be as satisfying without Candice’s support – from listening to concerns to cheering success stories and commenting on upcoming speeches. She keeps the business part of the family on track, which is a big relief to all four of us. When the heating system decides to die (as it did this fall), Candice plays the role of general contractor in researching the new equipment and getting all the workers to the right place at the right time.  She doesn’t have many flaws, but she does have a few.  She can’t carry a tune in a bucket.  (She’s like my father in that respect.)  But even that has been good for me, as she thinks I’m a great guitar player and she has supported my mid-life crisis-fueled Guitar Acquisition Syndrome with gusto.

For this holiday season, we’re continuing a tradition of having a special family celebration for each of the 12 days of Christmas. This was Candice’s idea, and she makes sure it takes place each year.  On Christmas Day 2013 we helped serve food at our parish’s Christmas dinner for the homeless and those in the neighborhood who don’t have anyone else to celebrate with, then we had a family friend over for dinner and a film. The day after – we simply made sure we exercised!  Yesterday, we celebrated over lunch with Andrew’s godparents.  Tonight, we’ll all take in a play at Arena Stage.  You get this gist…just a little something nice on each day to celebrate community, family, friends, and the season.

I’ll end this reflection of 2013 where I began.  I am a lucky man.  Thank you, my love.

New years bring new resolutions.  I have found that if I make a resolution public then I keep it – such as stating on my then-Facebook page in February of 2012 that I was giving up sodas.  I haven’t had a drop of soda in almost two years (and I had a 2-4 Diet Coke-a-day habit) and I feel much better.  So here goes.

As I began 2013, I resolved privately – with a great deal of help and prodding from Candice – to focus on my health.  My excuse was that in helping to bring Candice back from her injuries, I had let myself go. But that didn’t do much for me.  I was fluctuating between 210 and 220 pounds – well above where I should be – and simply wasn’t feeling well much of the time.

But after a commitment to go six months with a personal trainer (then extended for the rest of the year…and then on into 2014), I kept that resolution.  At the end of the year I weighed 15 pounds less than at the beginning of the year (and was fluctuating between 187 and 197…a significant improvement!  I was visiting the gym on average five days a week. At the beginning of the year I didn’t even know what a “plank” was…now I can hold one for a while before I collapse. Thanks to Sue Immerman at MAD Fitness, Washington Sports Club, and Tanya Colucci at Transform Holistic Healing and Wellness Studio, I’ve made some progress on this front.

So my first resolution is to continue last year’s resolution.  I hope to end 2014 another 15 pounds down from where I am now, and to solidify the change in lifestyle.

Several years ago, Candice saw the authors of Younger Next Year:  A Guide to Living Like 50 Until You’re 80 and Beyond on television, and bought me the book.  I was just turning 50 at the time, and while I was a little overweight, I didn’t feel like I was terribly out of shape. So I read the book, agreed with much I read, and then proceeded to live the way I had for the previous decade. Life was too busy.

But this year, I went back and re-read the book.  58 was much more difficult for me than 49. The book – geared toward men – focuses on exercise, looks, life commitments, and more. I loved the no-nonsense advice of this book – written by a retired lawyer and a young doctor – for the Next Third of your life. My all-time favorite in the chapter entitled “The Ugly Stick and Other Curiosities”: Just Say No to Yasir Arafat.

You may be tempted, particularly when you’re not going to the office every day, to forget about shaving.  Don’t. You may think “Bruce Willis!” but you may look “Yasir Arafat!”

Younger Next Year has seven “rules” for living the Next Third.  I’ve taken those, plagiarized some directly, reworked others a bit, and added some just for me. They’ve become my resolutions for the year(s) ahead, and they are now my computer wallpaper – the first thing I see when I boot up in the morning.  I’ll share them here, with a little explanation.

1.  Exercise six days a week for the rest of your life.  This is also the first rule in YNY.  The book makes the point that exercise tells the body to grow.  Sitting too long tells the body to decay.  My inspiration here is my father, Tom Brown.  He often says that the membership we gave him to the YMCA at age 70 saved his life.  Dad – who was not the picture of health at the time – now goes to the gym six days a week and has done so for the past 18 years.  He can’t hear worth a darn (and could never carry a tune), but he’s very healthy for someone who turned 88 last July.

2.  Listen more than you talk.  This is one I added just for me.  When you are in an executive position (be it at work or just as a parent), the temptation is to enjoy the sound of your own voice.  As I’ve become older, I have realized that I need to read this every morning before starting the day, as a good reminder.

3.  Spend less than you make. This is another direct take from YNY but it is important for me. I have found that as our financial position becomes more comfortable, I worry less.  That’s good, but it also leads to dumb decisions about money.  (Some would suggest I look at the G.A.S. post above.) In thinking about sustainability (personally as well as with the family, community, and planet), this just makes sense.

4. Quit eating crap!  Eat less of everything else.  The first is a direct quote from the YNY rules.  The second is my addition to remind myself that I can survive on a lot less food than I normally put into my body on a daily basis.  It would be more politically correct to use Michael Pollan’s famous, “Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” But I inevitably understand what is the crap I should keep out of my mouth (e.g., french fries) and when I think of it that way, it can tend to have more impact.

5.  Play music. He who sings, prays twice. I’ve decided that this is going to be a perpetual resolution. Music is one of the key things that feeds my soul.

6.  Connect and commit.  While this is taken directly from YNY, Candice could have helped me write this one. The authors devote an entire chapter to this critical issue of relationships, with sub-sections entitled “Cuddle or Perish,” “Don’t Retire at All,” “Using the Other Side of Your Brain,” “Make a Job Out of Your Social Life,” and “Just Say ‘Yes’.”  As someone who has to be prodded on occasion to accept social engagements, this is an important reminder.  Just since putting it up on my list, I’ve taken some steps in this direction.

7.  Don’t be a Grumpy Old Man.  Enjoy life!  I’ve never enjoyed being around older folks who gripe. (Actually, I’ve never enjoyed being around younger folks who gripe either!) But it is easy, as one gets older, to think you have all the answers.  That’s one of the great things about having kids. Mine remind me all the time that I don’t know squat about so many things in life.  But as I started the post on this note, I want to end here by remembering that I am a lucky man.  I have a great wife and children, a father who is still going strong at 88 and a mother-in-law who is a joy in our lives, a caring extended family, a wonderful set of friends, a challenging and satisfying job with fantastic and smart colleagues, and a wonderful community.  I have (most of) my wits.  I can still play a decent guitar, even if I have given up the dream of flat-picking like Doc Watson, and while I can no longer hit the high notes, I still sing a respectable tenor and do so with gusto when I know the song (to the embarrassment of my children). I love a good joke and like to laugh. Washington has a good professional baseball team and I get to share in a season-ticket package with good friends. My wife is an amazing cook and we both enjoy good food and wine on an almost nightly basis. Our house is not big, but it is big enough. I could go on and on.

So there they are…some resolutions (or musings) for 2014. Now that I’ve put them out there, feel free to let me know when I fall short (as I will). But also, if something strikes you as worth doing, feel free to take it and call it your own.

Happy New Year!

More to come…

DJB

Happy 21st, Claire and Andrew!

Today – December 20th – Claire and Andrew celebrate their 21st birthday.

How did that happen?!

It seems like their 20th birthday was just yesterday, and here it is – a year later – and we are celebrating their “legal” ascension to adulthood. Of course, truth be told, it really seems as if they just left the house for the first day of kindergarten.

In celebration of the twins’ 21st birthday, join us on this visual walk through their lives (so far!) with a picture from each of their 21 years.  As always, just hold your cursor over the picture to see the caption.

Let’s begin with that very short…but very important…birth year of 1992.

1992

Andrew and Claire's First Christmas 12 25 92

1993

Andrew and Claire in my favorite baby picture 1993

1994

Claire at Easter 1994

Andrew on SC Beach 1994

1995

Andrew and Claire July 1995

1996

Andrew and Claire Cropped October 1996

1997

Andrew and Claire on Godmother Katharine's Porch October 1997

1998

The Browns October 1998

1999

Thanksgiving Pilgrims at CES

2000

Halloween 2000

2001

Catching Crabs 2001

Andrew and Claire Fall 2001

2002

Andrew and Claire with piano teacher Bert Wirth in 2002

2003

Claire and Andrew at the Cathedral, Fall 2003

2004

Claire and Andrew at the Beach, August 2004

2005

Andrew and Claire at the House 2005

2006

Andrew and Margaret Potter - Cathedral Head Choristers - 2006

Claire and Maria at the River House 2006

Monster Cone 2006

2007

Claire CES Graduation 2007 (2)

2008

Andrew at the Ocean in South Africa

Lilly and Claire at Blessing of Animals 100408

Rio Grande Rafting 2008

2009

Claire & Andrew June 2009

2010

Concert at the Cathedral 102010 002

2011

Andrew's High School Graduation

2012

The Brown Family - 2012

Claire in Stockholm Ice Bar 2012

Andrew in Spain 2012

2013

Halloween 2013

It has been a great ride, guys. We are both so proud of you – the people you are and all you have accomplished. We can’t wait to see what the next 21 years will bring.

Love,

Mom & Dad

More to come…

DJB

Top image of the family at Fallingwater.

A Musical Weekend

MessiahMessiah.  Just a mention of the name of the famous Handel oratorio this time of year brings up thoughts of Advent. So it was only fitting that we settled in at the beautiful First Church of Christ Scientist in Providence on Friday evening for the first of two performances of this perennial favorite on our weekend calendar.

Candice and I are in Providence to visit with Andrew and to hear him sing with both the University Chorus and the Brown Madrigal singers.

Friday evening’s performance of Messiah was a double bonus, in that this was a “bring your own score” community sing-a-long.  It has been a long time since I sang in a regular performance of Messiah, but I do own a score and brought it along for the evening. Some choruses were like riding a bicycle – you never forget.  Others…well, I decided not to inflict pain on those around me and quickly dropped out of those where my muscle memory wasn’t very good.

Andrew, as you already knew, did a much better job with his singing.  He had the tenor solo for the Every valley shall be exalted… air and did a great job.  I’ve attached a video below of his solo, which I think you’ll enjoy.

Then Candice took over the camera for Hallelujah… as I joined in which the chorus.  You can see the beauty of the church – which is celebrating the centennial of this building – in this video.  All missed tenor notes that you hear are (no doubt) mine.

We’ve just returned from hearing the Madrigal singers present a concert of carols at Smith’s Castle historic site in nearby Wickford.  This was fun – in part because several of the singers had other obligations and we got to hear Andrew sing bass for the first time in our lives!

And after we touch down tomorrow back in Washington, we’ll head over to the National Cathedral for our second Messiah of the weekend.  Canon Mike McCarthy’s interpretation of the piece is wonderful (and yes, if you click on this link, the chorister you see over Mike’s left shoulder is a young Andrew!).

Enjoy!

More to come…

DJB

Every Valley

Hallelujah…